Embracing Your Sex Appeal At Any Size
Women who are naturally curvier, have different shaped bodies, or who keep on weight more easily than others are under constant siege from a barrage of negative influences and narrow beauty standards (that the vast majority of women don’t fit.) These standards are picked up and reinforced by social media, TV, magazines, and almost everywhere else, which can leave curvier women feeling down on themselves. It can have you believing that you have no sex appeal, but that’s not true. Here are some ways to embrace the sexy, confident, and powerful side of yourself, no matter your size.
Dress to your body’s strengths
The first thing that you need to do is to recognise just how much the market tends to cater to a relatively small subset of women. You can find the clothes that fit your body type, but you might need to look a little harder to find the clothes that suit you. Learn to work your curves, rather than trying to hide them or ignore them. When you see yourself in the mirror for what you are, rather than a standard that you might be trying to achieve, the feeling can be nothing short of empowering. Learn to dress to your figure and you will look and feel much better for it.
Wear something sexy
A lot of women on the curvier side might feel like they don’t look good when it comes to the more sensual nightwear that’s out there. Even if there’s no man or woman that you’re trying to impress (or entice), there’s no denying how good it feels to try on something racy and see just how good you look in it. The market is starting to grow to accommodate women with curves, as well. Just check out some of the sexy plus size lingerie being released by online stores and brands to get a taste for yourself and consider treating yourself to something sexy. No matter how slender or curvy you might be, you can take advantage of your femininity to great effect, whether it’s just for yourself to give a certain someone a special evening.
Work with a photographer who knows how to get your best side
Just like lingerie, a lot of people make the assumption that boudoir photography is typically for those who are in a relationship or those who are looking to impress on a romantic interest. However, that’s not true at all. They can be a very healthy expression of self-love and self-confidence for those who want to embrace their sensual side. And, as with lingerie, plus size women are not disallowed to engage in it, either. Plus size boudoir photography can help you embrace that sexy side with help from a professional who knows how to shoot you in the most flattering light.
Stop comparing yourself to other women, period
If you have found yourself falling into the comparison trap, it can be a very difficult thing to get out of. Envy can be a destructive force when your envy is focused on something that you are not likely to attain, such as those few women who manage to embody at least some of the body standards we’ve been raised to idolise. Get out of the habit of comparing yourself to other women by, in part, recognising what is beautiful about you. Even giving yourself a little pep talk of your positive attributes can help you bring the focus on yourself when you feel like making those comparisons.
Don’t put other women down, either
There is a hugely toxic practice that has started to become a little more common in many of the body positivity spaces on the internet. We’re talking about taking the time and energy to put other women down because they have a different body type from you. Yes, a lot of curvy women do get the short-end of the social stick and might have some very righteous fire that they want to express, but you’re not upsetting any power dynamics by putting other women down and trying to convince an audience that they are not worthy of feeling attractive. You’re just contributing to the overall pool of women being shamed for their appearance and shape. If that’s a habit that you have found yourself getting into, try focusing more on yourself rather than those women.
Slender, curvy, short, tall. We all have that sex appeal that we tap into. Learning how to do so can do wonders for how you see yourself.
