When 2019 comes, it’s going to be a great year for us all, and that’s true because we just said so. We have a crystal ball, you know? And we can see you smashing it, girl. Because who has time in 2019 for anything other than self-love, bettering yourself, and creating lasting relationships with those around you, based upon nothing but love and support? Not us. We’ve put together a guide so that you can make sure you start your 2019 off with a bang, by which we mean: you’re going to look in the mirror and tell yourself you’re doing great, and you’re about to do even better. Ok? Cool.
However, self-love doesn’t always have to mean doing yoga and applying facemasks, and it takes a different form for different people. You may feel that little bit better just by showering and showing up every day, and that’s fine, as doing well doesn’t mean that you have to follow certain guidelines, or go off what others think is success. Going for a run in the morning may be self-care some days, and giving yourself a slice (or two) of cake on a particularly hard day can be self-care, too. So whilst it varies for different people, there are things here that can bring us all a bit of happiness. Read on for some 2019 goals!
In 2019, we have no time for not liking ourselves, and being way too tough when it comes to setting our expectations. Try your best to accept things that you can’t change about yourself, because they make you who you are, and there are so many people out there who do (and will) love them. Think about the things that you say to yourself on a regular basis, about your body and your personality. Now imagine that your best friend is saying those things to you. Most of us wouldn’t allow a toxic relationship like that to continue, particularly not every single day. So make sure that you work towards being your own best friend, and be kind to yourself. If you wouldn’t think (or say) it about others, then that is a good indication that you need to try and rid yourself of that toxic thought. It can be hard, but it is definitely worth it.
Sharing the love
You’ll soon realize that this love that you harbor towards yourself will radiate onto others. It sounds cliche to say that you have to love yourself before you can love others (and we don’t necessarily believe that it is as easy as that), but loving yourself will make your relationships, well, different. You’ll have people in your life because you want them to be there, and you’ll respect yourself enough to cut off toxic people, who are just not giving you the love and respect that you deserve. Not only will you be surrounded by better people, but you’ll be giving so much more to your relationships, because you’ll be a lot more positive about yourself and others. We know, this sounds like a lot, but little steps towards this are enough to notice a big difference.
In 2019, we’re spending some time on us. This doesn’t mean that you have to turn into the world’s biggest narcissist, but taking some time for yourself is not selfish. Ultimately, you are the only person that you have to hang out with until the end of time, and people will come and go. But learning to love, and develop, yourself is greatly important, because unless some life-altering technology develops and you can split yourself in two, you’re always going to be with your mind and your body. Love them, and cultivate them. Why not take on a college course that you’ve always wanted to, but never had time to do? You can even study online at Aston and other universities, if you need to. If you don’t have time, make it! You deserve it.
Give yourself a break
2018 has been hard, and we know that because every year has its difficulties. But there are many world events right now that are just tiring to hear about, and you may be losing faith in the goodness of others. Don’t let the news and the rat race of daily life bring you down, and make sure to give yourself a break. Why not go on a trip, and get lost, and not use your phone? Having it for safety reasons is probably a good shout, but leaving it in your bag so that you can just experience the little things in life is also a good idea. Take yourself somewhere, go for dinner alone, and talk to other people. You’ll realize how lovely people really are.
We can be so hard on ourselves sometimes, especially if we feel like our goals just aren’t working out in the ways that we wanted them to. But it’s important to remember that life works on a timescale, and it isn’t necessarily yours. The universe has a plan for you, so setting yourself the goal of doing something by 2019 is helpful, but don’t feel useless if you haven’t quite reached it yet. You’re doing great, and working hard, and you deserve a little treat, whatever you may think. What about that perfume you’ve been wanting for ages? Look, we won’t tell anybody if you don’t, and we personally think that you should get it before the New Year rings in.
Live by your own standards
In the age of Instagram, Twitter, Facebook, and a whole host of other media that constantly reminds us that we should be drinking this tea and eating that to lose weight, why not make 2019 the year that you embrace your body and your mind for what they are, and what you want them to be? And ask yourself this: do you want to limit your life because of some beauty standard created by a magazine, or somebody that you’ve never even met on Instagram? As Anne Lamott said, ‘Oh my God… what if you wake up one day, and […] you didn’t go swimming in warm pools and oceans all those years because your thighs were jiggly and you had a nice big comfortable tummy […] It’s going to break your heart. Don’t let this happen.’
Don’t be afraid to make mistakes
In 2019, we’re embracing mistakes. How are you ever going to learn if you don’t allow yourself to mess up once in a while? Creativity can crash and burn, but there is always something to find amongst the rubble, so don’t be afraid to give something ridiculous and outlandish a try. You could find something amazing, just by pushing yourself that little bit further. And if pushing yourself means, you know, speaking to somebody on the bus or something like that, then that’s fine too. Just give something new a try, and you (hopefully) won’t regret it. Don’t forget, whatever happens there is always something new to learn!
Speak your mind
Too many of us hold back when it comes to saying what we really feel, and instead try to sugarcoat it or say nothing at all. We often worry about what people will think, or that they will be offended, or more often than not, that what we’re about to say is probably wrong. On what basis do you think that what you’re about to say doesn’t have value? Think about this, and think about the other people around you who are speaking their minds. 9 times out of 10, you will have just as much authority on the subject to speak. And when it comes to feelings, don’t waste time by holding back. Decide what your boundaries are, and if somebody crosses them, speak up! Don’t compromise yourself for others when it comes to stuff like this.
It can be difficult to love and respect yourself, and we’re in an age where the internet tells us what we should look like, what we should enjoy, and what standards we should hold ourselves to. Not only is this horrible in itself, but it can be a tiring game trying to keep up with what you should be doing next, and who you should try to impress. In 2019, make it a goal to be happy, because ultimately, that is what all of these things come down to. And you deserve it as much as anybody else does!
So make sure that you love yourself, and extend this love onto your relationships with others. Try and better yourself by doing something that you’ve always wanted to do, and give yourself a break or a treat for the things that you’ve already done. Don’t allow anybody else’s standards to shape your life, as only you can decide what it is that you want to do, and don’t be afraid when it comes to making mistakes. Lastly, speak your mind, as you’re the only person who can ultimately speak up for yourself, so be heard! Enjoy 2019, and don’t forget to smash it.
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